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For those of
you who signed up for
Achievement Engineering's newsletter, you haven't suddenly been
subscribed to
something new. After having to explain several times at a wellness fair
this
summer that we were NOT an engineering company, I realized we needed to
change
our name to more closely match who we are and what we do. Thus, "Inward
Quest." The journey to discover the wisdom within us, the journey we
all
take, the journey on which we all can use support and encouragement.
We've got
great things planned for the
beginning of 2007… a new freebie to download from the
website, some free (yes,
FREE) workshops this month, and a retreat in March at a simply
delightful bed
and breakfast: it's just outside the city but has the most beautiful
garden
atmosphere. I guess that's why it's called the Garden
Retreat!
I'm glad to
have you all aboard to
support my journey, and I hope you feel the same!
Namaste,
Suzanne
Vachet
Director, Inward Quest
As one of my
favorite authors, Cheri
Huber, says, "One process does not lead to another. Wanting
leads
to wanting. Having leads to having.
Wanting does not
lead to having." Because of this, we're told to
state affirmations
AS IF they are happening now, AS IF they already
exist. We're supposed
to tell ourselves, "I am self-confident." Because if I said,
"Someday I'm going to be self confident," I would just be reinforcing
that right now I don't feel self-confident. Unless I state the quality
as if I
have it now, I am trying to turn "wanting" into "having."
However,
when I affirm to myself that I
am self-confident, the little voice in the back of my head pipes up and
says,
"Are you NUTS? We don't have that! If we HAD that, we wouldn't be
STATING
that! No one who is self-confident states 'I am self confident'. They
just DO
IT, not talk about it." I set up resistance for myself, and don't
change.
So, if
wanting leads to wanting, and
having leads to having, but saying I have something when I don't
creates
resistance… what can bridge that gap?
Here's what I've found works for me, and what I'd like to invite you to
try as
well:
A becoming
statement follows this syntax:
"I AM
BECOMING MORE _______ EVERY MOMENT"
How
to create a "becoming
statement"
To fill in the blank, determine an attribute that you would like to
manifest in
your life. The rules for choosing attributes are as follows:
Analyzing
the syntax of a "becoming statement" to explain why it works:
I AM BECOMING: The "voice in the back of my head"
rebels if I
say I have something when I don't, but it can accept the concept of
"becoming"
something. And because the word 'becoming' implies a gradual process,
it
reduces the 'fear of change'. Jumping head-first into something new?
That's
scary. Dipping my toe in and feeling the water temperature, then slowly
moving
into the water, giving myself time to adjust? THAT, I can handle.
MORE: Using the word "more" is a way to tell
ourselves that we
already have the attribute without triggering our internal Voice of
Resistance.
Can I say that I am centered right now? Can I say that I am peaceful?
Not
always. Can I say "SOMETIMES I am centered" or "SOMETIMES I am
peaceful"? Even my inner critic has to concede that yes, I have these
qualities sometimes… but perhaps not as consistently as I
would like. So by
using the word "more" I'm identifying that I'm not moving from
"wanting" into "having", but "having" into
"having".
(ATTRIBUTE): When an attribute is chosen
using the
qualifications I listed above, it has emotional meaning to us. This
lets us
give ourselves a "sneak preview" of the good feelings we might get
from change, in a way that doesn't scare us so much that we run away.
EVERY MOMENT: We are acknowledging that this isn't
surgery; it's growth.
That this is not a goal we're setting for "somewhere down the road"
but an ongoing process. That the process is organic, evolving naturally
out of
who we are, what we're learning, and where we're going. And that every
moment
we are breathing is a moment we are deepening into being more
authentic, more
vibrant, more alive, more satisfied, and more delighted!
If you try these, please send e-mail or leave a comment on our blog to
let me
know how they work for you!
If you're
not satisfied with your life,
you're not alone: a January 2007
The
workshops are titled, "What
Makes You Feel Like This?" and explore how we find the same issues
cropping up again and again, in our relationships, in our interactions
with
others, and in our search for success. Why do we react the way we do?
What
stories do we tell ourselves that create these feelings? Why do we get
caught
up in the drama and lose our spark, our inner wisdom, our sense of
purpose in
life?
Our
emotional reactions are a mystery to
many of us. We interact with someone, and it triggers a response. But
behind
the scenes, there's an association with the past, a story we're telling
ourselves, that we may not be aware of. Exploring these stories in a
workshop
setting helps us realize we're not alone in feeling this way, and frees
us to
find our life purpose, the place in the universe that only we can fill.
You can
attend the workshop on either
Tuesday, January 23, at
If you
haven't been out to our website
recently, http://iq.achievegrowth.org,
you'll notice some updates. One of those is a free article we're
offering as a
bonus when people subscribe to our newsletter. Since you have already
subscribed, you get our free bonus as well! In a separate e-mail, you
will
receive an address where you can download our article, "ACCEPT
Yourself:
The Path to Conscious Change." It's just another Inward Quest that
we're
happy to share with you!
(P.S. If you
like the article and want to
pass it along to someone, could you encourage them to visit our website
and
subscribe to this newsletter instead? You already know we don't spam
anyone, so
it's a safe way for your friend to get some encouragement as well!)
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